Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Be careful what you wish for because you just might get it.

All my dreams came true and it is exhausting.   Our little life we have built has been more stressful than usual the past couple of weeks/months.  I feel like I have several full time jobs.   The blog has been neglected a bit because between taxes, trying to buy our house, cleaning the house, my actual job, the boys, Easter, various birthdays, training for the half marathon and then trying to shower at some point something had to give a little bit.  Oh and apparently the family insists on being fed EVERYDAY and they want clean clothes.  Demanding little guys.       I am not complaining each one of these tasks I volunteered for and happily (most of the time) do... OK I am not a fan of doing our taxes.  I do not mind paying taxes just hate figuring it all out. 

    I learned something from this salad.  If you try to carry too much at once you will get cheese and lettuce on your phone.    Ohh  wait....  What I meant is that if you carry too much, something is going to get dropped.   In my case,  this salad and most of my housework.    

In between the busy.   We have managed to find the fun and pretty do not worry.   Here is some of the fun stuff you missed.....................

Guess who still gets and Easter basket from their Mom?  Peonies are my absolute favorite flower. 

I wouldlike  to introduce you to my "Happy Bird".  I bought her at lunch one day when I was having a particularly hard day that resulted in a couple of tears in my office.   I saw her,  loved her instantly, and decided my office needed her.   My interns named her Tiffany because she just so happens to be "Tiffany Blue".  I knew there was a reason she spoke to me.  

On one random Saturday,  the parents came and retrieved Jacob and we had a little time during the day with nothing planned.   I had some errands to run so we took Grady Baby on a little date.  This is him at Mashup Resturauant  in Rockford.  We went shopping, had lunch, dropped stuff at Goodwill and walked through a learning store.  It was sweet to have a little alone time with the Boozey Babers.

 He had a lot of fun running from us at the various stores. 

This picture makes be laugh !!!  We start our readers young in this house.  He looks like he is annoyed that I am disrupting his Go Dog Go story.  He most likely is.  

We made Smores with left over Easter Candy.  Peeps, Cadbury mini eggs, and a Hershey Kiss.  What the What!!  Delicious.

Nothing is better than getting a flower presented to you from your oldest son.  Even if he picked it from our yard :)))    

I am not fan of video games... but this is just too cute!  My boys playing Hockey together.

Ninja Sponge Bob WII ... Life is never dull.  Although I am frequently told how bored he is all. the. time.

So handsome.  Just before the egg hunt in his PJs.

This post is pretty random but so is my head.   Whenever I feel the pressure and the stress...  I have a little nudge from God reminding me to get some prespective.  My nudges come from getting wonderful news from my friends, a tulip from my child, a hug from my husband or sometimes even watching a super sad show on TV (Private Practice), to make me so grateful.   

He said Good Morning the other day with this.....  My van guys called it a SunBow because it looked like a rainbow but just with sunshine. 

Even when it is cloudy there is always sunshine peaking through.  You just have to look for it!

Friday, April 13, 2012

On my soap box: Work at home moms vs. Work outside the home moms. Stop the Judging.

I was taught never to discuss politics, money or religion with people.  That these are private matters that should not be discussed.  One main reason I see this as good advice is that not only do people have varying beliefs but they almost always feel very strongly about their belief.    These are the things that start wars.  Mostly in the name of religion but everyone knows that both money and politics are closely related.  The fighting starts when others try to change the mind or force their beliefs regarding whatever topic onto whom they are discussing it with.  Guess what?  It does not change people's minds.  It starts a fight and firmly plants the seeds of discord further into each person.    The negativity is overwhelming at times.

Who started the war between moms that work at home with their children and moms that go to work outside the home?  This debate has been going on since women started the fight for equality and continues today.   Yesterday the big news story was regarding comments back and forth pitting mothers that stay at home with their children versus mom's that work outside the home.  I won't get into the specifics because it is not really worth the time it is more contextual to what made me once again start thinking about this ever present issue with moms.    

 Guess what?  ALL mothers work hard and pitting us against each other continues to marginalize women.   Being a stay-at- home mom is a choice that some make or it could be that they really do not have a choice.  Same with moms that work outside the home.  Maybe the mom has to work to feed her children or maybe the mom likes having a career and being a mother too.    The point is we do not know the situation so let us not judge anyone.  We need to have each other's backs ladies, respect each other, love each other and most importantly teach the parents of the future to do the same. 

I personally, as you all know, am a mother who has a career outside the home.  I love my job.  I love being a mother.  I love helping keep the airways safe.  I love having breakfast with my children.    Did I make a choice?  Honestly, when I take a long look at my life.. I always imagined having children and at the same time I always imagined being a working mother.   Would I stay home if I could?  Maybe, I do not know.  I try not to think about it much.     Mom guilt is pretty powerful on just about every other issue we face so adding to the list is just not appealing.   

I found these lists on the Internet of things not to say to mothers...working at home or working outside the home.....  we need to start with each other if we want to change the future. 


1. It must be hard missing all those special moments every day.

2. I suppose it's smart that you're working. You know, in case your husband leaves you some day.

3. I'm surprised you went back to work. Your husband seems so successful.

4. It's cute when they call your nanny "Mama."

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5. I just love my kids too much to leave them during the day.

6. Did you see Dateline ? The one with the hidden camera in the day care?

7. I could never let someone else raise my children. But that's just me!

8. I hated my mom because she was never home after school like everyone else's mom.

9. You must feel so guilty.

10. I wish I were as laid-back as you and could just let the housework go.

—Liz Gumbinner of, with help from her blog readers

Top 10 Things never to stay to a work at home mom.

1. When the kids are older, do you think you'll get a real job?

2. How June Cleaver of you!

3. Oh, so you don't work?

4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?

5. All day with your kids? I can't even imagine.

6. I'm jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn't have to work either.
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7. What do you do all day, anyway?

8. I'm sure you're not the only one who's ever wasted money on a college degree.

9. That explains why your son is so clingy!

10. Weird. I assumed your house would be super clean.

—Candy Kirby of, with help from her Twitter followers and friends

All of those comments about send me in a rage.  People are so mean to each other sometimes.  Sadly,  I have heard most of the working mom comments.   It hurts my feelings a little and then I let it go, because usually it is not meant to be mean.  Moms out there let us all just stop all the snarky comments and judgments.   Being a parent... Mom or Dad is crazy hard and amazing, support each other and this world can only change for the better.    Just in case you are wondering .... the studies pretty much show that we can mess up our kids whether we work at home or outside the home. 

 Just love the crap out of your kids, teach them right from wrong, and pray A LOT!!!